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Denemca
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#1 Posted: Sat Apr 4th, 2009 02:59 am |
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Emily was trying on all my jewellery today, and a ring caught my eye, and brought back many memories of a dear friend of mine whom I have missed very much for 12 years.
Guz (maltese for Joe) lived in Malta and went for a holiday with some friends to Spain. Whilst there, he met an english woman, Angela. She and he fell instantly in love with each other, so much so that she quit her job whilst still on holiday, and travelled all over the world with him, bartending for income. (That was Guz's profession in Malta, he ran a night club).
There came a time when she had to go back to England for family reasons, and they ended up apart....yet neither of them ever forgot each other. Guz travelled to Australia to visit his brother, and whilst there, went out drinking with some of his brother's friends and ended up with his soon to become wife. It was only supposed to be a casual fling for him, but he soon learned from Daphne that she was pregnant. Guz' family were all over him to do the right thing by her and marry her so the child would grow up with 2 parents together. He took her to a JP and they were married soon thereafter.
Not long after their marriage, they moved back to Malta, because Guz didn't have residency in Australia, and whilst there, she told him she wanted to get married again in a church, this time with his maltese family around. He refused to do this for reasons which would become clear at a later date. It wasn't long before he found out that Daphne had lied to him about being pregnant, and an almight argument had erupted. Guz stormed out of the house and was gone for 3 days. During this time, Daphne had gone to his family, claiming that he was like a different personality, hysterical, violent and threatening to take his and her lives. She also told them that he had run away from her in a mad trance and was in danger of hurting himself.
I don't know if things have changed, but his family went to a psychiatrist over there, and Guz was diagnosed without even being there. When he came home, Daphne drugged him, and took him to the Psychiatrist, where he was (in his drug induced state, which Daphne said was his now normal disposition) prescribed schizophrenic meds, which kept him mellow, slow of mind and lethargic etc. During this time, Daphne of course took full advantage of the situation and became pregnant.
Guz was like a puppy, being led around by Daphne, she was definitely the dominant person in the house. They moved back to Australia with their son, Guz received permanent residency, and he lived on a pension because he couldn' t work because of the meds he was taking. A few years later, Daphne had a second child, a little girl.
Seven years later, I began dating a man, who turned out to be Guz nephew, thus I met Guz and Daphne and her family. Guz was heavily into dope at this time, and I just thought it was his nature to let his wife rule over him like she did. I became fast friends with them, and my relationship with his nephew ended, but I kept up my friendship with Guz & Daphne for many years. Her side of the family were people I hated being around, but I began to be drawn in (not doing anything bad, but going to their parties even though I didn't want to be there...Daphne had a way of laying big guilt trips on me if I wouldn't drive her here or there, or help her family, taking them here or there..bailing them out of jail etc...I'm just thankful I got away from them...they were thieves, loved to start fights with each other and strangers, just not nice people)..
One day, after a holiday up to Darwin, I came back and found Daphne crying that Guz had left her. He'd gone off his meds and walked out on her. Through another friend, I found where Guz had moved to, called him to see if it was okay to visit and headed down to his new apartment. The guy who answered the door was totally different. No schizophrenia as I was expecting, definitely not slow in talk and walk, but perfectly normal....Over coffee, he related the whole story to me. He finally had had enough..his kids were now living with their respective partners, and he wanted his life back, free of meds. He thought he was schizophrenic because of Daphne drumming it into him, and just once he wanted to see if he could handle life without his meds...not to mention he found out his wife was seeing someone else since a few weeks before...
I'd gone to see Daphne a few days after and she admitted much of the story Guz had told me was true, but claiming she only did it because she loved him so much etc. Her life was soon to take a different path, and it wasn't for the better. So I left her with her new "friends" and decided to help Guz track down his old girlfriend.
We managed to find some of her family members, and eventually tracked her down. It was only 3 weeks later, that I was around Guz' place, when there was a knock at the door. He opened it up to see Angela with a suitcase. She had gotten his address from her family member and booked the first flight she could get to Adelaide, to be with him. She had the most adorable little boy from a previous marriage that didn't work out...and after her divorce, she had changed her name to Guz' last name...she still carried a torch for him all those years, as he did her.
I helped Guz with all the paperwork he needed for his divorce, went with him and Angela for moral support at the divorce hearing, which Daphne didn't even show up for. He and Angela got engaged the very next day, and made plans to move back to England within the next 12 months. He gave me a ring, emerald with white sapphires for all the help I'd given him finding Angela and his divorce etc, and knew I'd probably never see these two friends again.
I would ask after them occasionally when speaking with my aunt's husband (Guz other nephew lol...another matchmaking attempt which worked), but they never heard from him...
Thank goodness for Facebook. I found, through old friends and relatives, Angela, and know that she and Guz were married and living happily ever since in Malta. They are looking at property to buy to retire in Bulgaria. It just brought tears to my eyes that a relationship that seemed doomed, began to thrive again and has lasted for the rest of their lives....
Now I wonder how far Bulgaria is from here...might have to go visit hehehe....
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#2 Posted: Sat Apr 4th, 2009 03:40 am |
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| all i can say is.... WOW!!!!
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#3 Posted: Sat Apr 4th, 2009 12:42 pm |
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| OMG what a story Den...just proves that true love never dies. That was a great read and what a wonderful ending for both of them.
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#4 Posted: Sat Apr 4th, 2009 01:47 pm |
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| Fantastic story of undying love :-) Im so happy they were able to be brought back together again, just shows you sould never give up hope.
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#5 Posted: Sat Apr 4th, 2009 02:51 pm |
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What a glorious story Den  Thank you so much for sharing that experience.
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#6 Posted: Sun Apr 5th, 2009 01:01 am |
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| What a great story very romantic! and yes im a romantic i even watch Hallmark.
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#7 Posted: Sun Apr 5th, 2009 10:53 am |
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| what a nice story, I feel like there is hope for me yet too... don't you just love a happy ending
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#8 Posted: Mon Apr 6th, 2009 04:14 pm |
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| That's unreal, as others have said nice to see a happy ending and that true love still lives on.
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