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Denemca
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#1 Posted: Mon Nov 26th, 2007 05:50 pm |
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I'll be just so glad to hear some Aussie accents and get some aussie culture injections.
Im still hating America, wishing every day I could go home. Hates a strong word, but I will be sooooo happy when we are stationed in Japan.
Why is it you hate America so much? Is it because of the immigration restrictions placed on you when first entering and the red tape processing that is required to ensure that we are here for the right reasons?
I understand that not being able to work can be tough when one is experiencing homesickness, and it would definitely help to occupy one's mind, but there is so much more to do that can help also...
you have Sunny who is only a few minutes by car for conversation and who is offering you friendship...I also believe there are other aussies in Wilmington and that area, which isn't too far from you. Have you managed to get in contact with any of them?
Even though you can't be paid until you have authorization to work, there are plenty of places where you could volunteer some time. Local hospitals, library, newspapers, radio station...join a church and get involved with some of the younger crowd there..
If you do have your authorization to work, I hope you find something soon. Was Sunny's friend able to help you find anything workwise through the education department? If not, there always seems to be places hiring...maybe not for what you're looking for right away, but will help bring in some money and business and allow you to meet people until you can find what you want.
How is Japan so much better than the USA? I am just curious...enquiring minds...I've only been there for a layover on my way to the USA, and haven't spent any considerable time to base an opinion on Japan and it's people and culture.
One gets out of a place, what they put into it. Nothing in life is going to be handed to a person on a silver platter. If you open yourself up to friendship, friends will come. If you open yourself up to acceptance of the American people and their country and what they and it stands for, you might learn to appreciate and even enjoy this wonderful country, and the people who make it so.
Going into a situation with a negativity isn't going to ever bring one happiness and satisfaction, and if one is going to be based in this country for a few years, then one might need to change aspects of their life to view this country in a better light, so it will be more enjoyable on that person and the people around them.
Accept any help that is offered to you, revel in it, and don't give up or give in to any obstacles that you feel are in your way. If soemthing doesn't work out for you, try another path...whether it be with employment, social or both opportunities.
If one doesn't embrace the culture, people and differences of the place they are living in, one will never be happy, no matter where they are. And with a marriage between 2 people from different countries, there will have to be give and take on both parts.
I hope your time in the USA gets better for you, if not, I hope you fnd whatever you're looking for eventually..
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dahls
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#2 Posted: Mon Nov 26th, 2007 07:19 pm |
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Well Den you got that spot on !!!
I found it hard when i first got here as well but i soon learned that we have to find our own way in life no matter what country we live in.
All countries are the same you have good and bad, you have rude you have polite.
People don't come to you, you have to find and make friends, same with jobs, you have to look or be in the right place at the right time.
I'm not sure how long you have been here for Digger, but I'm guessing not long ?
Give it time Digger, even if you do move to Japan its going to be the same there unless you already know people in Japan.
But I'm only guessing as i don't know why you hate it so much here
I for one have found very few rude people, most are so willing to help out if asked, if we be honest to our self when we move from one country to another do we think about all the changes before hand, yes we might think but not to the full effect it will have on us, nobody can say this until they have gone through it, but it takes time and effort on our own behalf (not saying you haven't).
Also have you looked up the stages of culture Shock ?
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#3 Posted: Tue Nov 27th, 2007 01:02 am |
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when mum and I moved to melbourne from tasmania after my father died ,I hated it ,I had left all my friends ,couldn't go to my favorite fishing spots,couldn't go rabbit hunting ,there was so many things I was unhappy about
eventually I got to be mates with some of the kids in our street,I would go to the football with them on a saturday,the man next door and his son started taking me fishing with them ,life suddenly became great ,I still missed my friends in tassie but my new ones were great as well,really all we can do is make the best out of changes and try to adapt and be happy d0098d0098
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#4 Posted: Wed Dec 16th, 2009 12:40 am |
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Hey fellas I can't agree more I so miss aussie company very rarely do I get to run into an aussie, when I do it is so refreshing.
I've been in the States now going on 9 years and still call Australia home. I married a southerner (Georgian) ( I know from one penal colony to another) so have made my nest here and as Dahls says all countries have their good and bad (the south is the pits to me) but My moto is home is where you put your head down at night and life is what you make it.
I so miss the smell of the aussie bush the noisey sounds that echoes from them the Kukaburra (see I've even forgot how to spell)specially going back in time in many ways at least 20 - 30 years.
America is another country, in some ways another planet, they do think different but for some reason just love Aussies.
I don't think I've encouaraged you any but I do understand your heart feltness .Last edited on Wed Dec 16th, 2009 12:45 am by Amblin_on
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#5 Posted: Thu Dec 17th, 2009 03:08 pm |
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Amblin_on wrote: Hey fellas I can't agree more I so miss aussie company very rarely do I get to run into an aussie, when I do it is so refreshing.
I've been in the States now going on 9 years and still call Australia home. I married a southerner (Georgian) ( I know from one penal colony to another) so have made my nest here and as Dahls says all countries have their good and bad (the south is the pits to me) but My moto is home is where you put your head down at night and life is what you make it.
I so miss the smell of the aussie bush the noisey sounds that echoes from them the Kukaburra (see I've even forgot how to spell)specially going back in time in many ways at least 20 - 30 years.
America is another country, in some ways another planet, they do think different but for some reason just love Aussies.
I don't think I've encouaraged you any but I do understand your heart feltness. Do you get to go home much? If its not rude to ask where abouts do you live now? maybe you live near one of us.
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Denemca
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#6 Posted: Thu Dec 17th, 2009 09:58 pm |
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crazylizzy wrote: Amblin_on wrote: Hey fellas I can't agree more I so miss aussie company very rarely do I get to run into an aussie, when I do it is so refreshing.
I've been in the States now going on 9 years and still call Australia home. I married a southerner (Georgian) ( I know from one penal colony to another) so have made my nest here and as Dahls says all countries have their good and bad (the south is the pits to me) but My moto is home is where you put your head down at night and life is what you make it.
I so miss the smell of the aussie bush the noisey sounds that echoes from them the Kukaburra (see I've even forgot how to spell)specially going back in time in many ways at least 20 - 30 years.
America is another country, in some ways another planet, they do think different but for some reason just love Aussies.
I don't think I've encouaraged you any but I do understand your heart feltness. Do you get to go home much? If its not rude to ask where abouts do you live now? maybe you live near one of us.
psst...crazylizzy, it says under her name to the left, she's in Alabama.....closer to Dahls and Aussieca than the rest of us I believe....
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#7 Posted: Fri Dec 18th, 2009 01:23 pm |
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You need glasses Lizzy 
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Amblin_on
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#8 Posted: Sat Dec 19th, 2009 03:24 am |
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Lizzy
No not much can't afford it to often last time was semptember two years ago.
As you have been so apply told where I live duh :) down here in the swamp.
We are all spread out here ain't we?
By the way I'm a bloke! ;)
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#9 Posted: Sat Dec 19th, 2009 02:11 pm |
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Amblin_on wrote: Lizzy
No not much can't afford it to often last time was semptember two years ago.
As you have been so apply told where I live duh :) down here in the swamp.
We are all spread out here ain't we?
By the way I'm a bloke! ; Thanks for the thumbs up on if your male or female would hate to say something wrong
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#10 Posted: Sat Dec 19th, 2009 03:12 pm |
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Another male the more the better we have to keep these women in line .
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#11 Posted: Sat Dec 19th, 2009 03:21 pm |
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 So it is! i need to take more notice don't i, been on the egg nog of late 
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chchchick
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#12 Posted: Sat Dec 19th, 2009 05:55 pm |
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| I can understand where Digger was coming from and anyone else who gets extremely homesick. Everyones situation back there is different and for the most part most of you and other ex pats are extremely happy which is fantastic, but I think when other things aren't going well while living in the states, it just makes you want home even more than a regular homesickness bout!!. I think I would have loved living there if everything was fantastic in my marriage and I had heaps of family support with the kids and felt welcomed into that family. I never did and the marriage was going down the toilet, hence my urge to get home to familiararity and the arms of my immediate family for comfort and support. I had a great network of friends, whom I am still close to over there, but it just isn't the same as home and when you are close to that family back home, it is hard to be away from them, especially when things go all wrong. I was there 8 years and for the first 3 yrs got out and met people and had fun, but then it all turned to custard and all I wanted was to be home. So I totally get how people don't like it there for whatever their reasons are and it is hard not to compare how americans are to australians or kiwis. But if there is no chance or opportunity to return 'home' then one must get on with it and find some happiness in their decision to be there.
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dahls
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#13 Posted: Sat Dec 19th, 2009 07:20 pm |
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This is a very old post and there was a lot more to this one. It wasnt so much about being home sick but about hating everything about America. If you read the fist post in this section that Denemca put up Digger said she will be so happy when they are stationed in Japan so it has nothing to do with Australia. Just thought i would make this clear as some of you were not around when the first post was added about this subject.
Where Denemca quoted Digger .........this was taken from Diggers post.
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chchchick
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#14 Posted: Sat Dec 19th, 2009 11:19 pm |
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| oh ok, well in hating everything american could also stem from unhappiness else where in their lives and even living in Japan may not have helped them.beat_me. I don't judge anyones thoughts or opinions, just try to understand where they are coming from. I was told many times to leave the usa if i didn't like, but it wasn't that easy. Figured it was just easier to keep my thoughts to myself incase I offended anyone back there. Suffering in silence til i could do something about my situation. Lifes too short to be miserable and I hope Digger has found some happiness elsewhere.
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Denemca
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#15 Posted: Mon Dec 21st, 2009 08:07 pm |
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I met this person in real life, and she was as true to her post, which wasn't nice at all....
p.s...sorry about assuming you were a female Amblin_on...don't know why I did lol...
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